Recently I’ve hosted a webinar for beauty industry professionals called “Beauty industry professional nightmare: How do you actually start”, and I wasn’t surprised with the responses I got, as they all were filled with fear. In this article we are going to tackle how to get over your fear.

When we talk about fear I like to call it a driving force behind so many people’s lives. And if you want to end your battle with fear you need to deeply understand it.

What I want you to think about here is this. Fear is not the enemy you need to get rid off. Fear is your friend. A friend who guides you closer to the world of new possibilities and shows you a path to growth.

FEAR IS YOUR LOVING FRIEND

– Kateryna Zotik

To understand why fear is your friend let’s dive into the biology of what it actually is. Fear is an unconscious self-protective mechanism of your body in the face of threat. Unconscious! It is coming from the core of your brain – reptilian brain, that according to neuroscientist Paul D. MacLean’s “Triune brain” model is the oldest part of your brain. Let’s put it this way – if your brain was a broccoli – reptilian part of it is at the very core and there is no way you can avoid its impact. You can not cut out the core of your brain or expect to control the unconscious mechanism. So what can you do? You can learn to work with it. You can turn your so called “enemy” into your friend.

There is nothing wrong with experiencing fear. It is the most primal and deepest emotion we all share.When I say “we” – I mean you and I, you and your pet, you and your boss, you and the Victoria Secret’s model. We are all united under the umbrella of experiencing fear. Nobody is excluded. What it means is that it is okay to experience fear. What is not okay is to let it run your life.

I will remind you here. Fear is your loving friend, who guides you closer to the world of new possibilities and shows you a path to growth. It takes you towards the limitations of your own perception and generously sheds the light onto the borders of your reality, it is more than wiling to push you further in your development. We blame fear for all the discomfort that it brings with it. What we don’t realize is that we are the ones who create that discomfort by resisting the change. Fear is simply a guide into the deeper fulfillment of your hidden potential. It is not the fear we should blame here. The intentions of fear are the ones of your best interest. It is your own emotional reaction to fear that creates the inadequacy in the place where beautiful things have a huge potential to come into existance. And this is not the blame game here. It is about seeing clearly what’s in front of you and being able to recognize that behind the irrational scary mask of the fear in reality there is the blossoming land of infinitely great opportunities. And therefore it’s about how you perceive it. It always is. It all starts within you.

Okay, I get that fear is my friend. But why is it loving? Remember the instinct we talked about earlier? That instinct is imbedded in your DNA so hard, and the part of the brain that contains that instinct is so deep at the core of your brain, that there is no chance you will ever escape your fear. And the good news is that you don’t have to! Because at the core of your brain, and at the core of your instinct and fear in reality is an innocent thing – an unconditional love. Your love for yourself. At the core of your fear is the self-preserving whisper of love. And when you can learn to hear it – that is the triumphal moment where your fear can be seen for what it is – the warm caring friend, that hugs your body in an instant if it feels threat to your life and protects you in split seconds. Always unconditionally loving by default.

FEAR IS A VOICE OF YOUR SELF-PRESERVING INSTINCT, WHICH SAYS:

“I LOVE YOU, PLEASE DON’T DIE”

– Kateryna Zotik

Your fear is a warm fuzzy blanket of love and protection that is thrown over you by the self-preserving instinct from the oldest part of your brain. What an intrinsic mechanism in action. And all in the name of love! Love you are caring deep within yourself. Love that has always been within you and you never even recognized it. Love that will never leave you. Love that is imbedded deep down into your core.

So how do you tackle your fear then? If by now you still think that you need to “tackle” anything – let me remind you – fear is not your enemy, it is your friend. Fear is lovingly protecting you from the potential threats. And these potential threats could mean anything – from a spider on your coat, to a desired promotion. Unless real danger to life, none will actually threaten to crash your heartbeat. So thank your loving friend, take a deep breath and go for it. Let the spider fly away with the wind, stand up tall in recognition of your worthiness of that promotion, and tackle whatever your fear is bringing you attention to, as it is a valuable message about great potential for your personal growth. As with anything – the genius answer is simple – just go for it!